Intimidad, conocerla

Abstract

Intimacy consists of three aspects: first, the emotional-sentimental warp, where the things of the world resonate and create us emotions and feelings, the raw materials of intimacy. This resonating with the world can be manifested (extimacy) or kept to ourselves (intimacy). This decision—whether to show or to keep for ourselves—is the second aspect. In a culture that idolises spontaneity, it would be difficult to mature as individuals. Modesty is not just reticence; it is an opportunity to develop and improve, a "resistance to becoming merely my body." The third aspect is that each person regulates relational spaces where greater or lesser spontaneity, sincerity, courtesy, modesty, and generosity are allowed. In conclusion: emotional sensitivity, personal space and social interaction weave a delicate fabric that covers and reveals us a narrative marked by the tension between what we are, what we want and believe to be, and how we show ourselves. When we are not at ease with ourselves (ego-dystonia), we try out new adaptations to the environment. But we can also become accustomed to discomfort, with the danger of social withdrawal and emotional stagnation.